Love can only blossom in freedom. When freedom is restricted,
love suffocates. You need to be free. Often love stifles. When you are in love
or when you love somebody, you feel stifled because you are obliged. When there
are so many obligations that you need to fulfil, then these obligations become
like a load on your head and you get the added responsibility not to hurt the
people you love and who love you. In a subtle sense, this takes the freedom
away and slowly demands start arising in you. The moment demand arises in you,
know that love is on its death-bed. Love is in an oxygen chamber and it doesn’t
live very long.
Demand destroys love. Freedom is essential.
A lover is beyond all rules. There is no rule on how to
express your love. All expressions are a spontaneous outburst of love and love
finds its own expressions – you cannot streamline it. Your eyes cannot hide the
love, your gestures cannot hide the love, and your steps cannot hide the love.
Love flows in all your expressions, in your behaviour, in your alertness, in your walk, in your
talk, in your whole life.
One thing you can never fully hide is love. You can hide
anger to a great extent, you can eat anger inside you, and you can put a big
smile on your face. People may not notice your anger, your vengeance – but you
cannot hide love. It comes flooding from your eyes, your smile and your
gestures. There are no rules on how to express love, because when you are in
love, you cannot make a mistake. A lover is beyond all rules, beyond all
scriptures, beyond all theories and philosophies.
If you don´t follow certain codes of conduct, there is a
possibility that you will fall out of that love. Anyatha patitya ashankaya –
there is the possibility to fall off the knowledge, off the path of love. So
just follow and stick to these rules. This is very, very beautiful. No doubt
you need freedom to blossom in love, but in turn love brings freedom in all
situations, all circumstances. Nothing will be stifling, nothing will be
bonding to you, and nothing will restrict you, your freedom, in the true sense
of love. Are you getting what I am saying?
When you are in love, nothing is a burden to you. When
nothing is a burden, how can anything take away the freedom from you? You lose
freedom when something is a burden to you. So love in turn brings that freedom.
When a rule is imposed on you by someone else, then it is restricting to you.
But when you have taken a rule on yourself, on your own, it is not any
restriction, it is not suffocating to you. Like when you take on the rule of
driving on the right side of the road, then that is it.
Discipline (rules) bring more freedom to us although, on the
surface, it appears to restrict freedom. But if you go a little deeper, you
will see that your own rules, your own disciplines bring you freedom. Though
you are beyond all discipline, yet it is good to have your own discipline.
Though it doesn’t matter to you what you do, when you rise, what you eat etc.,
it is better to have a certain discipline because that gives you such freedom.
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